KO'ing the Assumptions

I'm in the progress of breaking an old habit of making assumptions of what others are thinking about me.  It's held me back from too long and I have only myself to blame.  One may be quick to judge this comment that i've just made but take a second and think about the situations/interactions you have in your life...you may surprise yourself to find that you do this as well.

It's not just about what other physically see me as but how they judge me based on my actions, character, needs, etc.  Think about your relationship with your partner (or friends, well if they are great girlfriends like mine, they kinda can read my mind, often before I have--so maybe a family member instead) now how often do you find yourself getting frustrated by something they have/not done.  Did you actually clearly commincate to them what your needs were?  Did they properly comprehend what you communicated to them?  If not...guilty (just like me).  How about a trip to the gym (or outside, it's raining for me today so it's the gym today)...have you gone and thought more about what the other people around you are doing/thinking then what you are?  Again, guilty.  Being guilty isn't what you should be focusing on now, your eyes are open and your mind is aware now--act on it!  Be conscious of these thoughts.  When you have them do your best to Knock them Out!  It's not healthy!

This is my focus for the next month.  Keep my thoughts positive and about/of me!  Assuming what other's are thinking is of no benefit to anyone!  You'd be surprised what other's may be thinking when they are looking at you.  I've started boxing recently and when people walk up/by me they actually compliment me on my training, not critize me or think 'what's with the "big girl" trying to box?'  Quite the contrary, I have had (recently) a few men compliment me on my right hook--THANK YOU!!!  LOL

If you are going to assume other's thoughts, at least make them positive.  But even better, stop the assuming period.  In relationships we/I often get caught up by assuming my partner (I don't do this anymore) thinks I'm fat or unattractive when in reality they think I'm hot!  Think of it like the movie Shallow Hal...sounds kind of bad, but think about it, Jack Black's character see's this hot chick whom he falls head over heels for when in reality she is overweight.  If the person really loves you, you physical appearance isn't in their forefront.  If you don't like your physical appearance, then do something about it for you.  Again keeping it positive--instead of "lose weight" how about "tone up"?  I said that from the get go...I knew that there was muscle somewhere under all this fluff and now I'm starting to see it!  I hadn't felt my ribcage when taking a deep breath in for A LONG time (even laying down, sad I know) but now, just standing up and breathing normally I see my figure!

Stop the negative thought, get out of your own way so you can achieve the goals you want to achieve!  It's like that song....accencuate the positive, eliminate the negative!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gc5-bP-QGSI

-arh